Saturday, 16 May 2009

Remember Cruella?

It's been ages since I've had to do a Cruella post. She's been pretty quiet lately, which although I welcome the peace, is not usually a good sign.

Today Mr M told her about his deployment to Afghanistan. He wanted her to know so that they could agree on when he would tell the boys. He also didn't want to risk her finding out from someone else - highly possible as they both work at the same hospital.

Her reaction.....

She called him a selfish *****, told him that he had no right going to serve Queen and Country. She continued her rant, stating that the boys would be angry with Mr M and would find it very hard to forgive him for abandoning them. WTF? Her closing statement was that the boys would not want to come to our house at all if Mr M wasn't there.

Talk about deluded. Does she not realise that Mr M should be commended for being a volunteer, that without the likes of Mr M, our service men would be placed at greater risk. Does she not realise that the boys are terribly proud of Mr M and all that he has achieved whilst being a full-time soldier and a volunteer reservist? Does she forget that all of the other times that DH has been away the boys have always chosen to come here as normal?

Well, Cruella. I've got news for you. I am so very proud of my husband, I think he is being incredibly selfless and brave to volunteer to go into a war zone. I will give him my support, even though it breaks my heart to think of where he will be going. I also know that in supporting him, I am a better person than you - you were behind him leaving the army in the first place, you gave him an ultimatum - who's the selfish one?

As for the boys..... I'd love them to keep coming as normal when Mr M goes away. However, I have a life and commitments and will not be an unpaid childminder for you. If the boys choose (yes, it will be there choice) to still come here - there home - then they will be welcomed with love and affection. If they choose not to come, then they will be told that the girls and I will always be here for them.

You see, fuck face, this is not about you, although I'm sure you will spend your time between now and the 22nd September trying to think of ways to play the victim - yet again.

Bring it on. Mr M and I are happy and secure in our relationship. We support each other 100% and we love all 4 of the kids. Nothing you can do or say will ever change that, so if you want to waste your energy trying - go ahead, make my day!!

6 comments:

Stacie said...

That stinks that Mr. M's ex-wife is such a difficult person to have in the mix of all things.

How long will he be away?

Mimi said...

I hate ex wifes!!! Grrrr.

I think that is wonderful her is serving his country. And it is also wonderful you support him 100%. She is just upset because now she doesn't have a built in babysitter!!! What an ass.

Kami

Minnie said...

I'm without words. Total shcok.

And then this is me standing up and applauding you.

Great post. I hope Mr. M knows how fortunate he is to have so much support.

Just Me :) said...

Selfish...really? If the definition of selfish has changed to: Giving of oneself completely to others, then go right ahead and call him selfish...if the definition as i remember it still stands true: 1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others 2: arising from concern with one's own welfare or advantage in disregard of others, Then I believe she should direct that character trait towards herself.

Amy said...

Your husband is a hero.

And you are wonderful for standing behind him and supporting him.

She is unbelievable!

Smirking Cat said...

What a sad, selfish reaction for her to have, and how arrogant to pretend she is in charge of the kids' emotions. She would be an expert on selfish, but by her own actions, not yours or Mr. M's.

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